Luna News: Luna Coaching
A Season for New Questions (and New Answers!)

Here we are again, past the official seasonal marker of March 21st: we have sprung into spring. We all survived, some better than others, the monthly milestones: January’s post-Christmas blues; February’s Valentine’s drama because we’re not in a relationship, or not in the right one; March’s wake-up that winter is over and we can no longer complain about the short days; and, finally, April’s Fool and the Tax Man—this time a face-off between us and a global recession, eight months and counting? Indeed, the joke has been on us.

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Yes, the economy is in the tank. The world is full of uncertainties. The financial outlook is bleak. Now that we’ve got that out of the way, how are we going to find our own flow in these tricky economic times? The image that comes to mind is a fish swimming in a river, finding its own current to navigate, so that the surrounding turmoil doesn’t kill it but, instead, makes it a better swimmer.

Flow can be found in adversity, and now is the season for us to expand our flexibility, to find new solutions, new ways for us to get what we want. This year, more than any other year, spring cleaning is not an option; it’s an absolute must.

We must review all our patterns and discard the ones that don’t serve us. In that clearing out, new ideas and opportunities will come to us. If we don’t make space for the new, we will hold on to the old because, as Aristotle first said, nature abhors a vacuum. Now, here are some common self-defeating patterns you may want to toss this year:

Old patterns that have never served anyone anytime

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  • Judging yourself
  • Taking things personally
  • Pointing fingers
  • Waiting to be saved/rescued
  • Keeping clothes and things you don’t use

New patterns that will generate flow

  1. Make an objective inventory of what you are good at and what you are not good at, and redesign your professional and personal lives to reflect that. Not good in math? Hire an accountant. Good with people? You do the PR for your business. Want to date but have difficulty meeting new people? Outsource it with a dating service that best suits you and your budget. Or join an interest-based club, where you can express a passion and play with kindred spirits.
  2. Look at the big picture. Observe your life impersonally, as if from the top of a mountain or lighthouse, so that when the minutiae of life gets overwhelming, you have the most constructive vantage point from which to choose the best course of action.
  3. Take personal responsibility. Do what is important for you, what keeps you in integrity with yourself, your walk aligned with your talk.
  4. Embrace the ultimate rescuer: YOURSELF! You are the only, and the best, person to take care of you because you know yourself inside and out. No one can do that job as effectively as you can.
  5. Let go of everything you haven’t used in the last two years. You can donate it, have a tag sale, or post its availability on an online bulletin board, like Craig’s List or FreeCycle. Spring-clean not only your living space but also your mind and attitude through, perhaps, a self-development seminar, a meditation practice, or a weekend trip away.
Last but not least: With your new, spring-fresh sensibility , rewrite your résumé to reflect who you are, right now. Scrap the clichés and craft language about your qualities and work experiences  that distinguishes you from anyone else.

So, how do you learn to swim like a fish? With my book 30 DAYS TO A NEW YOU: Get What You Want Through Authentic Change and/or in the E-course Get What You Want you will learn how to update yourself so that you can become flexible and find your own current to navigate during these economic circumstances.

Questions & Answers: The Coaching Way
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We can talk about shifting our lives until the cows come home (do they ever?); however, clients have told me that they would find these newsletter concepts more valuable if they could also ask me their specific questions to help them apply the concepts to their own lives.

So, I invite you to send in your questions pertaining to the current newsletter’s topic (please, one question per person), and I will answer them, the coaching way.
  •  Streamline your question.
  • Make it about you.
  • Sign it with either your full name or your initials.
  • Check the next newsletter for the answer to your question.

Here are two Q&A examples:
Q: If I decide to hire you as coach, how long would be the best time to work with you? N.K.

A: Coaching gives immediate results because you open up to me, a trained professional who can easily recognize how to push you out of your safety thinking so that you find new ways to look at the same old thing. However, it takes some time and practice to build new habits, new mental patterns that override your predictable resistance and fear. It’s like working out at the gym with a trainer. You will be sore the first few times, because your trainer will exercise your muscles and correct your movements in ways unfamiliar to your body. With continued training, your muscles will acclimate to the new routines, and you will grow confident in your ability to get the best results for your body.

My goal is to teach you, the client, to become your own coach—unbiased and nonjudgmental, living an intentional life according to your values. To that end, I prefer to work together for a minimum of 3 months, because the clients who experience long-lasting results are those who have corrected their unproductive patterns for at least that length of time. The best results are obtained by those who work with me on an ongoing basis.

Q: I’m getting so much from your great coaching. However, how will I know when it’s time to stop?
A: When do you stop eating great food? When do you stop using a great lawyer or going to a great yoga class? Hopefully never.

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Monica Magnetti

The Get What You Want Coach
Always researching new and current information so that you can get what you want.